The other day on Threads I started a thread. In the first post I said “I can’t change or fix everything but I can do my laundry” with a photo of clothing going into the…
Essays
Where there was nothing
For the last nine months or so I’ve hosted a weekly creativity session on Zoom for folks who are supporters on Patreon. Every week at our designated time I open up a Zoom room. Every…
Rituals for the end of the week
Every Saturday I clear off my desk. I put my pens and markers back in their holder. I go through all of the stacks of papers and books that I’ve accumulated. I charge my headphones…
Wanting Too Much
I used to be afraid of wanting too much. I remember member a moment from when I was four years old. My grandmother, who was one of my closest relatives, had cancer. Before bed I…
Advent reflections
We are entering the season of Advent. I feel like, sometimes, in our rush toward Christmas; the hustle and bustle of gift giving and making memories and carrying out traditions and reveling in the revelry…
Behind The Scenes of Writing A Book
I’m now in the process of writing my second book and I thought some of you might be curious about the behind the scenes. Each process has been quite different. For the first book I…
Listen To Your Body
As a young person I was taught not to trust my body. “The flesh is sinful” was trotted out to explain all sorts of things: selfishness, disobedience, desire, lust, pride, you name it. But the…
The Stories We Tell
We tell ourselves stories all day long. We tell them about the person who cut us off in traffic, about our spouse when they say something (or something in a tone) we don’t expect, about…
How do I talk to people about church (when they don’t seem to care)
Two questions that come up a lot, especially in progressive faith circles (but that at the root are the same question) are: I don’t know how to talk about my faith with other queer/trans folks…
How to Get Unstuck
Sometimes when you’re working on something you get stuck. Maybe it’s that the project feels too big and you don’t know where to start (or what to do next). Maybe you can feel something isn’t…